We live in a time and society that is driven by the “Haves”. Every day we look around us and see other people with things that we would like to have.
“Bob got a nice new Camaro!”
“Jenny has such a sweet boyfriend! Where can I find a guy like that?”
“Mark and Sue’s kids are so well behaved.”
“Tammy just got promoted again!”
The things that people have are even more visible today because of Facebook, Twitter, and the constant bombardment we are under by commercials and advertisements that try to convince us we need more and better things to keep up with the times. These ideas have shifted our collective focus from BEING better people, to HAVING better stuff. It is time for us to remember that Being is more important than Having:
Wishing that you had more or better things directs your focus away from yourself. This external mentality makes it difficult to be proactive in recognizing area’s within yourself that can be improved and it limits your circle of influence. You only become happier when you obtain one of these external factors but this happiness is fleeting and you have little if any control over them. For example, you may get that promotion but if the economy tanks you have no control over budget cuts and downsizing.
Shifting this focus to thinking about what you want to BE increases that circle and helps you reflect on what you can do on a daily basis to greatly improve your life. These improvements are the kind that will stay with you forever, no matter what the external environment is like.
So I challenge you today and every day to reflect on your thoughts, and when you catch yourself thinking “I wish I had….” Shift that focus to “I want to be…” and see where it leads you!